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  • Toxic Friendships
    This article is as much about life lessons as it is about toxic friendships. I learned an interesting truth about myself recently, and I just wanted to share it.

    In this life, we are all here to learn lessons, and we will keep being presented with ...
  • THE RIGHT TO MEND
    Whenever you drop a glass or a plate, it shatters into pieces. There they lie, all jagged and in different shapes and sizes. There are even some pieces that are so small that they could never be glued back into place and can only be swept up and thrown aw...
  • What's In Your Closet?
    Skeletons in the closet - we all have them and many of us desperately try to push them further into the dark realms of some tiny room set aside for storage and unused items that are no longer necessary, or that we are not ready to throw away. There they h...
  • The Sound of Success
    Successful people are everywhere. They are in the newspapers, on television programs, and are being interviewed and their words written down by reporters for all kinds of magazines and journals.

    But, how do we know if these “successful” people are...
  • No Better Time Than The Present
    Through my studies, I've been introduced to the concept that the "Present is Perfect." The idea is that no mater what is going on in your life right now, this is how it is suppose to be and it is perfect. Everything that has happened in your life up un...
  • Choose To Be Happy, Now!
    Choose Happiness....Now!
    The older I get, the more I realize that ninety percent of life is about choices. Similarly, both the choice to be happy or unhappy is totally up to the individual. Sure, unforeseeable circumstances come along and rattle our c...
  • DID YOU LIVE UP TO YOUR FULL POTENTIAL TODAY?
    Can you ever know if you are living up to your full potential?
    There are some indicators that can help you to determine the
    answer.

    If you go to bed happy every night, satisfied with your
    accomplishments, you may well have lived up to you...
  • COMPETITION IS BEST KEPT TO YOURSELF!
    Are you 'playing golf' at work? Richard Behrens, Golf Grand
    Master, says, "Good golf is all in the mind....the golfer's own
    lower mind, and how the person perceives the situations s/he
    finds...on the course are the major reasons s/he suffers ...
  • ARE YOU ENTHUSIASTIC?
    Enthusiasm, the dictionary tells us, means to have a strong
    excitement of feeling, something inspiring zeal or passion. In
    Greek and French it means to be inspired. It's origins are, and
    its first definition, comes from the religious. An enthusi...
  • The Power of Expectations
    You can sit around and wait on FedEx to drop off a
    big box of happiness on your doorstep if you want to.
    But that's not likely to happen anytime soon. Or you
    can get up, create an action plan, and get on with your
    life. It's 100% up to y...
  • 4 Super Reasons You Will Love "Easifying" Your Life
    Are you someone who wants a simpler life, but who
    associates simplifying with giving away everything
    you own, and going back to baking your own bread?
    Unfortunately, that attitude can scare you away from
    making the simple (pardon the pun) ...
  • Better Future? Better Start Now!
    Famous Hockey Star Wayne Gretsky once said, "You
    miss 100% of the shots you never take." Famous
    Southern mother (mine) frequently said, "You can't
    win if you don't play". Those words often still ring in
    my ears today - Am I willing t...
  • THE CONNECTION: Simple Smiles
    Smiles have power relative to an ant's physical ability. They can
    cheer someone up, improve your own mood, and make the world a more
    beautiful place. It amazes me how few people actually use them in
    their everyday lives.

    I recently bou...
  • 7 Things for your NOT-Do List
    Have you ever noticed how easy it is to find
    yourself reacting to life's daily busy-ness? You end
    up accomplishing nothing of real value. Try this
    "Not-Do" List, to see where you could cut out some
    of the intrusions on your daily life, ...
  • IT’S YOUR CHOICE!
    Do you really realize just how much choice you have in your
    life? Every moment you are choosing. The trick is to make
    those choices conscious, to be aware that you are actually
    making a choice at each moment.

    I was talking to one of my boo...
  • 7 Ways To Give Yourself A Break
    Life is hard enough without piling more and more
    expectations on yourself. It's like trying to diet in a
    chocolate factory! Instead try these 7 ways to help
    you lighten up, reduce worry, and give yourself a
    break. You'll come out on the ...
  • LOOKING GOOD or DOING GOOD?
    What is your focus at work? Do you want to look good? Or, do
    good?

    What attitude do you bring to work each day? Are you there to
    cover your anatomy or give real service to the organization?
    Are you there to give the best of your skills and...
  • 5 Ways To Jump Start Your Morning
    I'm not a morning person. I'm lucky to know my
    name, much less bounce out ready to face Denise
    Austin's morning workout. Not this girl. So I
    decided to stop fighting it, and start working with it.
    As the decorators say, if you can't hide i...
  • Get Things Done. Take 21!
    Get Things Done. Take 21!
    by Maria Gracia

    Ever begin doing something that you do for a few days,
    and then simply stop doing it?

    For example, let's say you promised yourself that you
    were going to file papers immediately before they...
  • Beware of prolonged erections, you aren't Priapus!
    Dear Reader,

    Please be informed of an important and very serious topic, for a happy sexual life.

    Be careful! A prolonged, persistent and painful erection may occur tonight! And with the absence of knowledge, you'll be one of the statistica...
  • Fixing a Broken Partner-Picker
    Do you have a broken partner-picker? Do you keep picking the wrong partners thinking they are the right ones, only to realize you once again picked the same kind of partner as in the past?

    If so, your partner-picker can be fixed. It just needs a li...
  • ARE YOU DISCIPLINED?
    For most people, the word "discipline" has an immediate negative
    connotation. It implies something imposed from the outside,
    doesn't it? It means that someone or something is controlling or
    demanding, neither of which are particularly appealin...
  • CHOOSE LIKE EINSTEIN
    Albert Einstein gave us a truthful, if playful, formula. He
    said, "If A = success, the formula is A = X + Y with X being
    work, Y being play and Z, keeping your mouth shut.”

    I cannot imagine there is anyone who, at some point, has not
    kick...
  • TEAM MISSION STATEMENTS
    A team is not a team unless it knows why it’s a team. Teams
    according to Jon Katzenbach* are "small groups of people with
    complementary skills committed to a common purpose, approach,
    and performance goals for which they hold themselves mutually...
  • WHAT YOU REALLY NEED TO HAVE GREAT RELATIONSHIPS
    Most folks live, work or play with other folks. We all need the
    skills to play nicely together. Where do we get those skills and
    tools? And, what are they?

    It is not rocket science to understand that our early training
    continues to play ou...
  • SUPERHEROES NEED NOT APPLY
    Are you a work superhero(ine)? Are you the one who knows where
    everything is, what everything costs, what happened to last
    year's __________ and, who did what to whom when? In addition,
    are you the one who can fix anything, soothe the raging cli...
  • Put Up Some Stop Signs
    We rush to and from work or other activities. Appointments and commitments fill our daily hours and we fall into bed exhausted but find sleep hard to come. Our nerves are tensed because there is so much more to do and so little time. Tempers flare and the...
  • PUT YOURSELF ON YOUR LIST
    If I asked you to describe yourself, what would be the first
    five things that come to mind? Are they positive things? Are at
    least three out of five positive? I hope so. If not, though, it
    is good information. It indicates a need for you to make<...
  • Resolve Disputes the Easy Way
    Now we can do this the easy way or we can do it the hard way.
    No, I am not selling a new financial product and I do not
    hold your arm up your back, nor a gun in your ribs.
    My message is " Don't litigate - mediate!"

    That is the messag...
  • Use The D System To Get Organized And Reduce Clutter!
    There is a simple system, known as the D system, that can help
    you to be better organized and may also help to reduce clutter.
    This system can be used at home or at the office with regular
    mail, email, and inboxes. It can also be used with voice ...
  • Chickens And Pigs Help Define Two Things We Need For Success
    This article is about involvement and commitment, two of the
    things we need to be successful. This applies to our jobs or
    businesses, relationships, and even our recreational pursuits.
    Any type of success, whether it is personal, professional,
  • The Amazing Power of Small Steps
    It's the small things in life that can drive you loco on any
    given day, isn't it? (yes, I see heads nodding!). Like the
    batteries dying in your garage door opener in the middle of
    the mother of all rainstorms. Or the birdfeeder that makes
    a ...
  • You Can't Predict, You Can Prepare
    When opportunity knocks, can you open the
    door? When misfortune strikes, can you make it
    through unscathed?

    When you are faced with risk, uncertainty, and
    the unpredictable, your ability to deal with it is
    directly tied to your abi...
  • Don't Play The All or Nothing Game
    A few nights ago, while surfing the late-night television
    offerings, I found myself entranced by a rather astute
    looking, young man giving all he had as he delivered an
    incredibly passionate speech. The topic of his speech was
    civil rights,...
  • YOUR 168 HOURS
    In every week you have 168 hours to use as you wish. Do you
    really know how you spend them? A general idea of what you do
    with your time is not nearly as instructional as a clear
    understanding. Here is an exercise to help you clarify.

    Take...
  • Let the Pros Handle It
    When it comes to looking for a job, most people take the
    Lone Ranger approach. They rely on themselves to figure
    out what they want to do, write their resume, prepare for
    interviews, and create a job search strategy. And while in
    the Infor...
  • WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE
    Have you ever taken an acting class and been challenged to
    imagine as many uses as possible for some simple household
    object? It is a wonderful exercise in creativity. Try it. Go
    to the kitchen, find a tool you use every day and imagine all
    po...
  • THE IMPORTANCE OF AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
    Do you have an 'attitude of gratitude'? What is your first
    inclination in any situation? Is it to find something to
    appreciate, or something to criticize?

    Many folks were raised with constant criticism. It seemed
    that almost nothing they...
  • How do you Cope?
    A few years ago, before the bubble burst on internet stocks, the
    chairman of the Federal Reserve, Alan Greenspan lost money on his
    personal investments because he `didn't understand this new
    economy'.

    Question: Are you coping on the inte...
  • Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 2
    The first step toward being able to attract and create your ideal relationship is to clear the way for it by eliminating baggage from your past. This baggage refers to any resentments, hurts, or fears you have toward anyone who either was a role model or ...
  • Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 3
    Do you want to put to rest the people and situations from your past so they do not interfere with your current and future relationships?

    I bet you said yes. Who doesn't have something in their past they want to put to rest? Then let's talk about ...
  • What Is My Purpose?
    What Is My Purpose?
    Helaine Iris
    © 2002

    "When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous." --Wayne Dyer

    For ...
  • Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 4
    Finally, after all of the hard work you have done completing your past, here is a way to break your relationship pattern.

    Relationship choices are often based on patterns created in our childhood. These patterns are automatic and subliminal. We bel...
  • Do You Have The Four D's You Need For Success?
    In order to achieve any amount of success in your life, it is
    important that you understand four basic characteristics. Let's
    call these four attributes the four D's of success, and they are
    vital no matter what level of success you want.
  • Tips For The Job Searcher
    I've searched for a few jobs in my time, and I've interviewed
    many hundreds of people. Here are some things that I've learned
    which have had great success. I hope they are of value to any
    job searchers.

    Treat job hunting as a full ti...
  • BE TRUSTWORTHY
    How do you approach the people and situations in your life? Do you expect
    each person you meet to be trustworthy? Do you expect a positive outcome
    from each situation? Do you accord yourself love, respect and approval for
    who you are right this m...
  • ARE YOU PREVENTING YOUR OWN GOOD?
    It's so easy to know what is good for you. You know it is good for you to
    eat fruits and vegetables, exercise and drink plenty of water, right? Are
    you doing it? Are you doing it regularly enough to feel good about it? Are
    you spending quiet tim...
  • YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY OF A LIFETIME!
    You have the opportunity of a lifetime. That sounds like
    marketing hype because you have heard it so often, doesn't it?
    Think about it this way: you have the opportunity to live one
    lifetime. Does that make a difference? How are you using your

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