How To Enjoy Oral Sex

Cunnilingus and fellatio - two words that certainly are a bit of a mouthful!

OK, OK, forgive the pun. It's possibly only funny if you're receiving normal oral sex. And how many people do? maybe fewer than you think. One of my oldest contacts once confided to me that he couldn't sway his spouse to go down on him - to give him fellatio. And was he ever having the opportunity to go down on her? No way - she made that clear from the start of their relationship.

He was desperately sorrowful about it, partially because he knew how pleasurable it feels, but also because he knew how much sexy pleasure she would get if she let him try it on her. But she seemed to be obsessed by the belief that the genitals were "dirty", and nothing would induce her to let a lover's tongue and lips anywhere near them. Ironically, did she but know it, the healthy human vagina is an extremely bacteria-free place - much cleaner than the mouth in terms of bacteria are concerned.

Most men know very well just how pleasurable it is to receive oral sex, though many have told me they like offering it to a woman almost as much. But women might be more hesitant to give oral sex than to receive it. If you're a man in this position, what's to be done? Many of the web sites on this theme are not printed in a female-friendly way, and could certainly be off-putting rather than encouraging if you were to introduce a averse partner to them. But if a woman is unwilling to perform fellatio when you want her to, anything more than gentle persuasion could become into a big relationship problem.

In the end, you might have to decide what is more important to you. And guys, let's have a bit of sensitivity over this: it is every partner's right to say "No" to sexual activites which they find unappealing.

But it's also important to get to the root of a woman's fear about oral sex: is it that she might choke? Or that you might come in her mouth? These fears are understandable: semen might not taste as pleasant as you think, and it can surely absorb the taste of what you've just eaten, especially spices (e.g. curry) and beer. Worst of all, so I am told, is asparagus.

Of course if you can't get your female partner to give you fellatio, it's a disappointment, and it may infer some fairly pressing sexual issues. Perhaps she believes sex itself is "dirty", and good girls don't do that kind of thing. Possibly her stance would change if you spent some time generous her oral sexual pleasure? If this doesn't work, or if she doesn't want you to do it to her, then talking about it may help to resolve the underlying issues.

The saddest thing of all is that cunnilingus (the use of the partner's tongue, lips and mouth on a woman's sexual organs) seems to be one way in which most women can achieve orgasm very certainly. A study by Men's Health magazine disclosed that oral sex by men for women was "one of the most favorite and exciting sexual activities that a man could offer to a woman; over and over again, the women said how much they loved it." It also has been ranked as the most satisfying action a man can do for a woman. In another study 81% of women said that they could come to orgasm through oral sex.

It stands to reason, because I can't think of anything at all more exciting right now than the bouquet and taste of a vagina. So close to their lover, most men will become greatly aroused, and their bigger energy and enthusiasm will feed their lover's feeling of being loved and wanted: it's totally flattering for a woman to know that she turns her partner on so profoundly. Furthermore, there is a profound significance in the act of "going down" on a woman - something to do with her being desired, something that says how she is respected and loved.

We're still driven at some deep level by our animal origin, and even though I understand for some men and women that the "animalistic" aspects of sex can be a bit off-putting, maybe we should just allow ourselves to react to our basic desires and enjoy the naturally stimulating sights and scents of a partner's intimate regions.

But if the smell and taste of your partner's genitals truly does trouble you, then why not work a welcoming} bath and massage session into your lovemaking? And of course this particular problem cuts both ways, for men sometimes need to guarantee their hygiene is up to scratch.

The best way to find out how to give oral pleasure to a woman is to hear what your partner says she wishes. But you can make a good start by reading a fantastic account of how to do oral sex on a web-site that contains a full description of cunnilingus, printed sensitively and imaginatively for men: http://www.my-penis.org/

One final point - there is a small number of men who find the idea of orally pleasuring their partners an uncomfortable one. So try this picture: in ancient Chinese art, a woman's genitals are often depicted as a peony flower. And if you take a aroma of a peony, your face is engulfed in a great, perfumed mass of pink petals. Delicious!

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Rod Smith is a counselor with www.my-penis.org..

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